What should I be prepared to provide when going to the funeral home to make funeral arrangements?
You should be sure to have the following information ready when you are making funeral arrangements:
- Decedent’s name
- Decedent’s social security number
- Decedent’s date and place of birth
- Address of the deceased
- Highest level of education completed
- Decedent’s occupation
- Decedent’s father’s and mother’s name (including maiden name)
- We will need your name, contact information, and relation to the deceased
What should I do if the death occurs in the middle of the night, on the weekend or out of town?
You can call us at any time day or night, 24/7. We are always prepared to be there when you need us.
How can I make sure my funeral arrangements are carried out according to my wishes?
The best way to ensure that your funeral arrangements are carries out according to your wishes is to preplan your funeral. Preplanning takes pressure off of your loved ones at a difficult time and ensures that your services will be very personal to you without anyone having to guess. If you would like to discuss preplanning, please contact us to schedule an appointment with a funeral director.
Is there a right or best way to have a funeral?
There is no “right” way to have a funeral. Every person is unique and any service should reflect that person and the life that they lived. In recent years people are finding more truly different and very personal ways to celebrate the life of someone they have lost. Talk with your funeral director about your loved one and what was special about them. Together you can plan a service that will celebrate the life of someone truly special.
What do I say to people at the funeral?
Each situation is different, but whether you call, send a card or flowers, or visit, the important thing is to make a gesture that lets the family know you’re thinking of them and share their sorrow. This website has many good tips to help you feel more comfortable about what may be helpful to say to someone at a funeral: www.funeralwise.com/etiquette/guide.
Should a child attend a funeral?
You know your child best, so ultimately you, and if your child if s/he is old enough, must be the ones to make that decision. Keeping that in mind, a funeral is something your child will likely remember their whole lives. Choosing to bring your child without some education and discussion beforehand can leave a child confused or even fearful. Choosing not to bring your child can sometimes lead to regret later in life. Even children can find comfort in saying goodbye. If your child is old enough to have a conversation, talk to them about what will be happening at the service. Give them the opportunity to help make this choice. Death is something we don’t have control over and having control over whether or not to attend a service can sometimes be very helpful. Use your judgement and know that you know your child and what his or her limits may be.
Can I still have a funeral service with the body present if I choose cremation?
Yes. It is not uncommon for a funeral service to be held with the body present before being cremated. You can discuss the different options available with your funeral director for more information